Foxdale

According to the discussion we had before going to the Foxdale saying that the elder people choose to go there by them selves, I was curious to ask them about that. I did not believe until I saw how they live. I met this man " Oliver". He was about having his lunch so he offered me something to eat or to drink. Then, he asked me about me name and I am from. He was exited when he knew that I am from Saudi Arabia. He said " Alsalam alikum? Kaif Halak?" I was shocked !! He told me that he was diplomatic and he lived in Syria, Yemen, Iran among other countries and he visited Saudi Arabia !! We discussed couple of issues about my country and my society. He is a smart man. He asked my email so he can send me more information about his life. I asked him to take a picture. He agreed and the picture was taken. Unfortunately, the picture was not saved in my iPhone !! I don't know why !!
I came out form Foxdale with "sad" feeling! It is a sad when you know that is your last place before you die! and most the people around you are old too! So you may not find your neighbor next morning!! I know it sounds dark! but they have chosen moving here for a reason that I will never know !! until maybe when I become at that age !!

My advice for the IECP students is to take some gifts for these people so they can remember this visit. Imagine that you are talking to your grandfather .. so be patient !!

Enjoy .. 

Summarizing what I have read on Monday March 31 ..

How lying affects people lives and which gender can do it professionally! Men are able to lie! , not surprising :), but they lie by saying simple words like " my battery is dead, that's why I couldn't call you!" . On the other hand," Women lie the best"! because they can read emotions better than men so they can manipulate and create more complicated lies; Sorry women but that is the truth. For example, aaaaa I cant think of complicated lie! so please girls help me :D                  (p: 143 - p: 147)

Quote form the book " The Definitive Book of Body Language" ..

" Lying is the oil that greases our interactions with others and lets us maintain friendly social relationship." P: 143.
I read a lot of interesting information in this book but I have found the above quote is the most interesting because it says explicitly that "Lying" is what makes our relations goes on! It describes the Lying as the "oil" that greases our relationships with words, facial expressions, and gestures. That's true!! It has limits and common acceptable boundaries in each society; if it exceeds the limits , it will become as the acid that erodes the metal! In fact, it is ugly to know that we are liars in a way or another! but without that we will end up alone!
     

" The Definitive Book of Body Language part IV "

     Since the entire book is a new experience for me, I am very interested and excited about it.
One of the things that exited me is a chapter talks about " Cultural Differences". It shows how certain gestures have different meanings in different cultures in the world. For example, victory sign (V) means "victory" in Germany, "peace" in France, but it has really bad meaning in Britain, Australia, New Zealand, and Malta! Another example, thumb up means "One" in Europe and "good" or "OK" widespread. However, it has a bad meaning in Australia! (p: 107 - 111)

     That's really surprised me! Normal gesture in may culture could put me in a bad situation in other culture!!!

     I am still excited about this book because it still surprises me with new information and helps me to understand others.

Body Language part III

     I was wondering how body language is recognized ? Shouldn't be different from one to another?
I have found that some gestures are inborn; which mean they are known to the babies once they are
delivered. Smiling ,for example, is inborn gesture because it has been observed on deaf blind babies.
Another example is shaking head to say "No". babies are learning that when they get enough milk from their mothers' breasts.
     There are some universal gestures. For example, most men put on a coat right arm first while most women put it on left arm first. That shows which part of the brain both of them are using. Another example, shoulder shrug which shows submission greeting is a universal gesture, too.

Can the body language be faked?? 

The answer will be given next time .. 

Extensive Reading: "The Definitive Book of Body Language".. part ll

- Birdwhistell claiming about the well trained person:     (p: 10)
     * Telling the gestures by listening to the voice    
     * Telling the exact words by watching the gesture    

- Gesture is a key to an emotion     (p: 11)
     * worried man about his weight tug the skin under his chin    
     *  worried woman about hes weight smooth her dress down    
     * fearful or defensive person    
          - fold arms
          - cross legs
- Women are more perceptive     (p: 13)
     * "women's intuition"    
     * pick up nonverbal signals    
     * accurate eye    
     * few husbands can lie to their wives
     * most women can easily tell when their husbands lie
     * women practice their nonverbal communication with their babies     (p: 14)

- MRI scanning     (p: 14)
     * women's capacity for communicating with and evaluating people
     * 14 - 16 areas in women brains to evaluate others' behavior
          - why women never seem to shut up ( man's standpoint) !!
     * 4 - 6 areas in men brains
          - why men don't seem to talk much (women standpoint) !
     * female brains is organized for multi-tracking
          - ave women can juggle 2 - 4 unrelated topics at the same time
          - 5 vocal tones are used to change subjects or emphasizing by women
          - men can only recognize 3 of them!
- Most psychics are female     (p: 16)
     * 80% of their auguries are common and fixed for any person!
     * if you memorize their words you can be a psychics too !!

Pease, A. (2004). The Definitive Book of Body Language (August 2006 ed., pp. 10-17). New York, NY: Bantam Dell.

 What surprises me about what I have read is how the woman's brain work! Now, I understand why she loves talking because she observes tiny details, so she wants to speak about them. On the other hand, man's brain seems having limited perceptive abilities compare to woman's. That is why men are easily to be discovered when they are lying.!!
P.S. Warning for all men, be honest. Other wise you are in a big trouble !!

The Definitive Book of Body Language .. 1

     
     I have started reading this book "The Definitive Book of Body Language". At the 
beginning, the author starts by saying " All Things Are Not What They Seem". He tells a 
story about how he became a successful salesman in early age by knowing the body language skills. As a matter of fact, he applied those skills since he was a child while he was selling rubber sponges after school. He was able tell wither someone was likely to buy or not. For example, if someone told him to go away but his hands were open showing the palms, he would  know it was safe to continue presenting his products because that was a sign for that the person was not aggressive.

     Spoken language uses the body language to express certain situations. For example, "Get it off your chest", "Keep your chin up", " Face up to it", etc.
     
     In addition, there is a quote that I liked and it is really important in relationships especially between best friends or a husband and a wife which is " It's how you looked when you said it, not what you actually said."

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To be continued ..

The Extensive Reading .. The Hunger Game

My book " The Definitive Book of Body Language" hasn't arrived yet so I have chosen the "Hanger Game" novel to start with until my book arrive !

                             "THE HUNGER GAME"

It is about a girl who lives in a house with her mother, sister, and a cat. She is a hunter. Her weapon is a "bow". District 12 is the name of the seam that where she lives. She describes how her life is difficult. For example, she can't even speak District 12 and what happens there in public. They are suffering from hunger and the darkness. They are lucky to have couple of hours of electricity. Also, The forest, where is next to the District 12, is fenced with an electrified fence and it is dangerous.

Her friend "Gale" is the one person she can be herself with.

to be continued ...

Extensive Reading Book " THE DEFINITIVE BOOK OF BODY LANGUAGE" ..!

I have chosen " THE DEFINITIVE BOOK OF BODY LANGUAGE" to read during the class in the extensive reading.

I hope I can win in the Biblio Battle .. :)

	Class #1	Class #2	Class #3
Class name and # (for ex.: Ag 113)	EDPSY 014H	SPAN 002	CED 155
Days and time it meets  (MTWRF,  2:30-3:20)	(W, 12:20 - 1:10)	(MW, 12:20 - 1:10)	(MWF, 12:20 - 1:10)
Classroom	112 Chambers bldg	121 Thomas	273 Willard bldg
Professor’s name	ROBERT JAMES STEVENS	MARTA JAEN VENTURA SEAN MICHAEL MCCURRY	FRANS J G PADT
Professor’s email	rjs15@psu.edu	mjv4@psu.edu smm48@psu.edu	fjp128@psu.edu
Reason you’re interested in observing it	I am interesting of know the influence of external and internal factors on the human Psychology	I am planning to learn Spanish. It is interesting language.	Since we are living in the environment, I think we should know how to deal with it

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My name is Mohammad O. Yousof. You can call "Moe". I love knowing people, discussing with them, seeing their opinions, and learning from them. I am very welcoming your visits, posts, and comments on my blog. Feel free to discuss with me any subject any time.


I was born in 1990 in Jeddah, Saudi Arabia. my father moved to Medina when I was three years old. I finished my elementary, intermediate, and high school there. In addition, I graduated from Taibah university in Medina as a mechanical engineer. I finished all my years their except for my junior year I took it at Penn State as a exchange program student.

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