Body Language part III

     I was wondering how body language is recognized ? Shouldn't be different from one to another?
I have found that some gestures are inborn; which mean they are known to the babies once they are
delivered. Smiling ,for example, is inborn gesture because it has been observed on deaf blind babies.
Another example is shaking head to say "No". babies are learning that when they get enough milk from their mothers' breasts.
     There are some universal gestures. For example, most men put on a coat right arm first while most women put it on left arm first. That shows which part of the brain both of them are using. Another example, shoulder shrug which shows submission greeting is a universal gesture, too.

Can the body language be faked?? 

The answer will be given next time .. 

Extensive Reading: "The Definitive Book of Body Language".. part ll

- Birdwhistell claiming about the well trained person:     (p: 10)
     * Telling the gestures by listening to the voice    
     * Telling the exact words by watching the gesture    

- Gesture is a key to an emotion     (p: 11)
     * worried man about his weight tug the skin under his chin    
     *  worried woman about hes weight smooth her dress down    
     * fearful or defensive person    
          - fold arms
          - cross legs
- Women are more perceptive     (p: 13)
     * "women's intuition"    
     * pick up nonverbal signals    
     * accurate eye    
     * few husbands can lie to their wives
     * most women can easily tell when their husbands lie
     * women practice their nonverbal communication with their babies     (p: 14)

- MRI scanning     (p: 14)
     * women's capacity for communicating with and evaluating people
     * 14 - 16 areas in women brains to evaluate others' behavior
          - why women never seem to shut up ( man's standpoint) !!
     * 4 - 6 areas in men brains
          - why men don't seem to talk much (women standpoint) !
     * female brains is organized for multi-tracking
          - ave women can juggle 2 - 4 unrelated topics at the same time
          - 5 vocal tones are used to change subjects or emphasizing by women
          - men can only recognize 3 of them!
- Most psychics are female     (p: 16)
     * 80% of their auguries are common and fixed for any person!
     * if you memorize their words you can be a psychics too !!

Pease, A. (2004). The Definitive Book of Body Language (August 2006 ed., pp. 10-17). New York, NY: Bantam Dell.

 What surprises me about what I have read is how the woman's brain work! Now, I understand why she loves talking because she observes tiny details, so she wants to speak about them. On the other hand, man's brain seems having limited perceptive abilities compare to woman's. That is why men are easily to be discovered when they are lying.!!
P.S. Warning for all men, be honest. Other wise you are in a big trouble !!

The Definitive Book of Body Language .. 1

     
     I have started reading this book "The Definitive Book of Body Language". At the 
beginning, the author starts by saying " All Things Are Not What They Seem". He tells a 
story about how he became a successful salesman in early age by knowing the body language skills. As a matter of fact, he applied those skills since he was a child while he was selling rubber sponges after school. He was able tell wither someone was likely to buy or not. For example, if someone told him to go away but his hands were open showing the palms, he would  know it was safe to continue presenting his products because that was a sign for that the person was not aggressive.

     Spoken language uses the body language to express certain situations. For example, "Get it off your chest", "Keep your chin up", " Face up to it", etc.
     
     In addition, there is a quote that I liked and it is really important in relationships especially between best friends or a husband and a wife which is " It's how you looked when you said it, not what you actually said."

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To be continued ..

The Extensive Reading .. The Hunger Game

My book " The Definitive Book of Body Language" hasn't arrived yet so I have chosen the "Hanger Game" novel to start with until my book arrive !

                             "THE HUNGER GAME"

It is about a girl who lives in a house with her mother, sister, and a cat. She is a hunter. Her weapon is a "bow". District 12 is the name of the seam that where she lives. She describes how her life is difficult. For example, she can't even speak District 12 and what happens there in public. They are suffering from hunger and the darkness. They are lucky to have couple of hours of electricity. Also, The forest, where is next to the District 12, is fenced with an electrified fence and it is dangerous.

Her friend "Gale" is the one person she can be herself with.

to be continued ...

Extensive Reading Book " THE DEFINITIVE BOOK OF BODY LANGUAGE" ..!

I have chosen " THE DEFINITIVE BOOK OF BODY LANGUAGE" to read during the class in the extensive reading.

I hope I can win in the Biblio Battle .. :)